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Nation Should Adopt New Florida Law

The new Florida law requiring mothers to place the names of potential fathers in the local paper prior to placing that child up for adoption is getting applauds and groans from different circles and should be adopted in nationally.

Fathers Rights organizations have long challenged adoptions which award children to adoptive parents without prior knowledge to the father or his family members often times resulting in bitter custody battles between fathers and adoptive parents once he is made aware of the child. Fathers have complained about adoptive agencies that wink at some state requirements to attempt notification of unwed fathers in the case his child is placed on adoption roles by the mother.

Although previous laws required birth mothers to place notices in local newspapers concerning pending adoptions, the Florida new statute, enacted last year, requires these notices to be more detailed and comprehensive. Now, a mother who is seeking to put her child up for adoption and who is not in contact with the child's father must, as a last resort, attempt to notify the father by placing a notice in an appropriate newspaper. The notice must contain the age, race, hair and eye color, and approximate height and weight of the child's mother and also of "any person the mother reasonably believes may be the father."

Opponents of the new law include the National Organization of Women and the Florida Association of Adoptive Professionals, both bristle at the notion a woman’s reproductive rights will be limited by this new law. Adoptions advocates refer to the law as the Scarlet Letter law and fear fewer women will not put unwanted babies up for adoption.What a bunch of malarkey. When do the rights of that child come into play let alone the rights of fathers and his family? Prior to any adoptive proceedings, the father should be notified and if he does not want the child then relatives should have the right of first refusal.

Forget about the importance of the biological family and the love it can offer that child because it is of the same blood. Even more importantly, this law makes sense for medical reason as well. Thanks to technology today, we can isolate genes, send nano probes into the blood stream and transplant vital organs to help save and prolong life. A child’s biological familial unit is better suited to be medical donors in case the need arises.Probably the most significant unwritten logic to this law is the potential for that child to grow and establish a bond with its father otherwise severed, potentially causing that child to spiral down the negative paths many fatherless children tend to take.

NOW is wrong to suggest that “fathers don’t care” and clearly seeks to destroy any possible bond a father has with its children based on stances it continues to take on common sense issues relating to fathers rights. The adoption industry has a strong lobby and should be careful getting in bed with an organization whose agenda borders on family disillusionment in the interest of individual rights.
oct 2003
dcoleman@ilovemychildrentoo.org